Everybody feels like a square peg in a round hole now and then.
If you’ve ever looked around and thought that you were the only one who didn’t have a realm of BFFs to call your own, here’s what you need to remember:
There is nothing wrong with you. You’re going to think there is something fundamentally wrong with your body, your face, your brain or your personality. There isn’t. You are this amazing, beautiful, bright light that is just beginning to find your way in the world. There is nothing wrong with who you are, what you want, and what you look like. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.
You are never as alone as you think you are. You’re going to feel like you are totally, utterly, helplessly alone. You’re going to feel like you walk alone in this world and that you’re invisible. That can feel scary. And desperate. And sad.
When you feel this way, try remember that someone, somewhere loves you and is rooting for you to win. This can be hard to do. If that doesn’t work, when you feel totally alone it is MOST important TO HAVE YOUR OWN BACK. Be kind to yourself. Listen to good music. Write in a journal. Plan out all the awesome things you ARE going to do with your life. Dream BIG. Believe that THIS is temporary. Pray, if that’s your thing. (Prayers can’t hurt.) You are NEVER as alone as you think you are.
Your tribe IS out there, somewhere. In some ways, you’re in the most challenging time of your life. Being a teen or young adult is not for wussies. Especially, if you feel like you have no one who likes you or understands you.
But one day, you’re going to meet someone – or a little pod of someones who speak your language. You’re going to discover that your people do exist – and that they were looking FOR YOU. And you’re going to forget what it feels like to have ever been lonely. Your peeps are out there. Keep your chin up so you can see them when they show up. Sometimes, your peopel show up as a surprise.
You have an advantage over all the cookie cutters. You are unique, one of a kind – dare I say – special. You are developing resiliency. And courage. And you’re going to know exactly how to treat people so they feel welcome and appreciated and seen and heard.
Your grand advantage will be that you will NEVER intentionally make people feel lonely or irrelevant. You will be wiser than others your age. Your so-called ‘lonely’ years will be fuel for a jet-powered life of risk and reward and tests and successes. You won’t be scared to try it out on your own, because you’ve already done the hard stuff alone.
Be kind to yourself. There will be days that you feel like you’re in a slow punishing hell of solitude and loneliness. The last thing you need is to dump yourself in cruel self-rejection.
Be your own best friend. Get comfortable alone. Print off this PDF filled with COOL affirmations made by ALL KINDS OF OTHER PEOPLE who love you too! 2016_Affirmations Put them on your mirror, on your wall, in your journal and in your pocket. Read them often.
Learn to love who you are. You’ve got so much to offer.
Hang in there, little sister.
YOU ARE LOVED. And you are loveable.